Can a wife call her husband by name in Islam? Whether to call my husband’s name depends on local culture and customs.
It is generally considered disrespectful and impolite to call one’s husband by his first name, although it is customary in Arab countries to call him by his first name.
In this case, the guidance of Islam is that the husband’s name can be pronounced at any time if it is customary and necessary.
How a wife calls her husband
Husband and wife will call each other using honorific names. A wife, in particular, will show respect to her husband—that is natural.
So it is stated in Fatawa Shami that it is makruh or disliked for a son to call his father and for a wife to call her husband by name.
Ibn Abedin Shami -Rahimahullah- clearly explaining that statement, says, “Rather, it should be called through words that will convey respect.” E.g. O, my chief, so-and-so’s father, etc. For example — Imam Sahib, Doctor Sahib etc.
Because the father and husband – both of them have more rights. (Raddul Muhtar Alaad Durril Mukhtar : 06/418)
Can a wife call her husband by name in Islam?
Yes, a wife can call her husband by name. But it’s depended. If the husband and wife are of the same age or are friendly and the husband does not mind being called by his name, then there is no problem in calling him by his name because there is precedent in Islam.
Alaihis Salam was leaving his wife Hajar and infant son Ishmael in the deserted desert of Makkah when his wife called him from behind — O Ibrahim.
The whole incident is narrated in Sahih Bukhari. There is — Ibn Abbas – may Allah be pleased with him – narrates when what was to happen between Ibrahim – and his wife (Sarah) was done, Ibrahim – Alaihis salam – went out with (infant) Ishmael and his mother.
They had a bag containing water—the mother of Ishmael – Alaihis salam – used to drink water from the Mushak. As a result, milk increased in her breast for the baby.
Finally, Ibrahim – Alaihis salam – reached Makkah and arranged for Hajar to stay under a big tree. Then Ibrahim – peace be upon him – returned to his family (Sarah).
Then the mother of Ismail – Alaihis salam – followed him for some distance. When he finally reached the place called Qada, he called from behind and said, O Ibrahim! Who are you leaving us with?
Ibrahim – peace be upon him – said, To Allah. Hajar – peace be upon him – said, I am pleased with Allah. (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 3365)
Apart from this, it is customary to call the husband by his name in different countries. So paying attention to social norms, respect, and politeness is essential.
The opinion of scholars
According to Islamic scholars, the matter depends on social norms, politeness and customs. In societies where it is not considered dishonourable, it is not objectionable, but where it is considered dishonourable and rude, it should not be done.
In the Indian subcontinent, being called by one’s husband’s name is disrespectful and rude. So here husband should not be called by name.
Because the wife must maintain honour and respect for her husband and not behave in such a way as to dishonour him; otherwise, they may have discord and harmful effects on married life.
Moreover, common courtesy is to address people in terms that please them. This demand for love is an essential thing, especially in married life.
Of course, if the husband does not feel pained by this or does not feel that his honour has been lost, then there is no problem in calling him by name, inshallah.
For example, Ibrahim Alaihis Salam was leaving his wife Hajar and infant son Ismail in the deserted desert of Makkah when his wife called him from behind:
يَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ أَيْنَ تَذْهَبُ وَتَتْرُكُنَا بِهَذَا الْوَادِي الَّذِي لَيْسَ فِيهِ إِنْسٌ وَلَا شَيْءٌ
“O Ibrahim, where are you leaving us in such a desolate valley?” (Sahih Bukhari)
In addition, there is a practice of calling the husband by his name in different countries. So paying attention to social norms, respect, and politeness is essential.
Is it a sin to talk about the husband’s name?
If there is a need to mention the husband’s name, pronouncing it has no problem. However, while talking to someone without need, it is a duty to take his name with respect.
Care should be taken not to show disrespect to people as a result of repeating the name.
Summary of this article
The article discusses whether a wife can call her husband by name in Islam. While it is generally considered disrespectful, there are exceptions based on local customs.
The guidance of Islam suggests that the husband’s name can be pronounced if it is customary and necessary.
The opinion of scholars varies based on social norms and politeness. It is essential to maintain respect and honour in married life.
Ultimately, whether a wife can call her husband by his name depends on the specific circumstances and the preferences of the couple involved.