Friends are an integral part of life. We have trusted companions in the journey of life. Friends are the focus of our love and affection. For this, the question arises – Is it Haram to have a boyfriend?
Because a friend cherishes another friend in his bosom forever, any festival or joy is colorless and tasteless without friends.
We all have different tastes and needs when it comes to choosing friends. Some make friends with peers, and some with younger or older people.
Many choose a friend as their life partner. In other words, we call him boyfriend or girlfriend.
Again, after a few days, We want to accept that boyfriend as a husband. I want to pave the way for earthly life by holding his hand.
But according to Islamic law, can a girl accept a boy as her friend? In other words, Is it Haram to have a boyfriend?
I am creating this blog with this answer. I hope this enriches your knowledge. Our article will reference Quranic hadiths and Muslim scholars’ opinions.
Is it Haram to have a boyfriend?
Yes, having a boyfriend is Haram. Boyfriend and girlfriend relationships before marriage are cursed. It is an offense punishable in Islamic courts.
Islam’s Prophet Muhammad – may God bless him and grant him peace – described such relationships as adultery.
إِنَّ اللهَ كَتَبَ عَلَى ابْنِ آدَمَ حَظَّهُ مِنَ الزِّنَا ، أَدْرَكَ ذَلِكَ لاَ مَحَالَةَ، فَزِنَا الْعَيْنَيْنِ النَّظَرُ، وَزِنَا اللِّسَانِ الْـمَنْطِقُ، وَالْيَدَانِ تَزْنِيَانِ فَزِنَاهُمَا الْبَطْشُ، وَالرِّجْلاَنِ تَزْنِيَانِ فَزِنَاهُمَا الْـمَشْيُ، وَالْفَمُ يَزْنِيْ فَزِنَاهُ الْقُبَلُ، وَالْأُذُنُ زِنَاهَا الِاسْتِمَاعُ، وَالنَّفْسُ تَمَنَّى وَتَشْتَهِيْ، وَالْفَرْجُ يُصَدِّقُ ذَلِكَ وَيُكَذِّبُهُ
Translation: “Indeed, Allah Ta’ala has assigned a portion of Zina to every child of Adam. Which he must do.
Zina of the eyes is unlawfully gazing at someone, and Jina of the mouth is obscene conversation.
The hand also commits adultery, but his affair is unlawfully touching someone with the hand; the foot also commits adultery. But his cheating is to send for the commission of adultery.
The face also commits adultery. But her affair is to kiss someone unlawfully, the experience of the ear is to listen to obscenity, and the mind also desires adultery. And then shame either implements it or doesn’t”. (Abu Dawud, Hadith No. – 2152)
Opinions of Islamic scholars on boyfriend Haram
All Islamic scholars agree that relations between Muslim boys and girls are Haram. The words and actions between them will be considered adultery. As a result, he will suffer punishment in this world and the hereafter.
The punishment for haram relations in this world varies from person to person and from state to state.
You can understand this by surveying the boys and girls around you involved with boyfriends and girlfriends.
Many boys and girls commit suicide because their relationships broke up. Her loved one is now focusing on someone else.
Many boys and girls have heart attacks under the stress of supporting their relationships, and many have many nights of crying and sleepless nights.
Moreover, even if one gets married after a love relationship, most of them cannot be happy in their married life.
Because the husband and wife gain happiness and peace, treat each other with compassion and respect.
But unfortunately, it is not from mutual respect between lovers. So they cannot be happy in married life. This is their worldly punishment.
If you think of a lonely mind and paint a realistic picture of a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship in your imaginary world, you will be forced to accept this relationship as a curse.
Also, seeing the consequences of the relationship, you will be forced to say that it is only a temporary punishment given by God. A more severe and appropriate punishment awaits in the Hereafter.
Why boyfriend haram in Islam?
As a Muslim, our answer is – this relationship is Haram by Allah. So it is Haram. I don’t know the real reason.
But I can tell you some reasons for our conscience. Below are some of the senses.
Irresponsibility: If a woman accepts a boy as her lover without marriage, her lover does not need to take responsibility for the girl.
Disenfranchisement: A girlfriend has no rights over a boyfriend. She can’t demand any of her physical, mental, or financial demands from her boyfriend.
Similarly, if a child is born between them through intercourse, that child has no social recognition. The lover is not obliged to take responsibility for the child.
After a lover makes love to a girl, there is no stopping him from leaving her whenever he wants
But if she takes her husband as her lover after marriage, she cannot throw him away even if she wants to. If he can, religion and society will stand in his way.
If a woman takes a man as her lover without marriage, she has no security. She surrenders her body to a man like a commodity.
Therefore, Islam has declared its Haram to have a boyfriend. Every Muslim woman can live her life with dignity and respect.
How do you have a halal boyfriend?
The only way to make a halal boyfriend is to get married. The boy who likes it should propose marriage directly without submitting love.
It is Sunnah to propose marriage on behalf of girls. So this is a great way. All kinds of behavior with the husband after marriage is legal.
What was illegal with the boyfriend before marriage will become legal only because of a process. This is Islam.
A boy may like a girl. This is normal. God has maintained the quality of pure love in the minds of people.
A person who does not have love in his heart is like a dead stone. Nothing smell or taste can be expected from him.
But this love must be served in the right place in the right way. Only then can the fruit be obtained from love. Otherwise, love will bring great danger.
In the Holy Qur’an, Allah Ta’ala narrated the story of Prophet Yusuf and Julaikha. Julaikha went mad in love with Yusuf – peace be upon him.
But Yusuf (peace be upon him) returned with his honor from there with the help of Allah. God protects him.
After a long time, after many events and stories were written, Yusuf (peace be upon him) married Zulaikha. Through marriage, Julaikha got close to the people in her mind.
But when Julaikha wanted to have sex with her beloved man illegally, Allah took her away from him.
One lesson from this incident is that if love is born to someone, the only way to get close to him is to get married. Otherwise, maybe God will take that beloved person away forever.
FAQs
Is Having a Boyfriend Haram in the Quran?
The Qur’an does not explicitly mention boyfriends or girlfriends, but the Qur’an forbids extramarital affairs. According to the Qur’an, a boyfriend is prohibited.
What does Islam say about modesty in relationships?
Islam encourages modesty and the preservation of one’s purity. Modest behavior and dress code are essential aspects of Islamic education.
Is dating allowed in Islam?
Traditional dating with casual relationships is generally Haram. Instead, Islam makes dating with the intention of marriage Halal.
Muslims can not have sex before marriage?
Islam encourages avoiding physical intimacy outside of marriage. This includes physical contact, which is part of protecting one’s purity.
What is the Islamic view of friendship between the sexes?
Islam encourages respectful and modest interactions between the genders. Close friendships that could lead to inappropriate relationships are generally discouraged.
Is there an age to have a boyfriend or girlfriend in Islam?
Islam focuses on maturity and readiness for the responsibilities of marriage rather than a certain age.
What should a person do if they are in a relationship that may be considered inappropriate in Islam?
It is recommended to seek guidance from a wise religious authority, reflect on one’s actions, and try to conform them to Islamic principles.