Islam commands husband and wife to treat each other with respect. But if a husband ignores his wife in Islam? So what is its provision?
We are writing today’s article about this. In the light of the Qur’an and Hadith, we will know how a husband ignores his wife, becomes a sinner and is headed for Hell.
If a husband ignores his wife in Islam
Suppose a husband ignores his wife. It’s haram in Islam for him. This is contrary to clear guidance in the Qur’an and Hadith. Because in the Holy Qur’an, Allah Ta’ala has ordered to treat wives fairly.
And in the hadith, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, very seriously instructed that Muslim husbands treat their wives respectfully and fairly.
A Muslim person shall recognize the rites and rights between husband and wife; Because Allah says:
“And women have just as much right as men have over them, And men have dignity over women.”[1]
So this verse of Al-Qur’an has determined the rights of each husband and wife over the other, and for some special reasons, the husband has been given a special status over his wife.
Moreover, the Messenger of Allah, may God bless him and grant him peace, said in the Farewell Hajj speech:
« أَلَا إِنَّ لَكُمْ عَلَى نِسَائِكُمْ حَقًّا , وَلِنِسَائِكُمْ عَلَيْكُمْ حَقًًا » . (رواه الصحب السنن)
“Know that you have rights over your women, and your women have rights over you.”
It is clear from this verse that no husband can treat his wife with contempt; it is forbidden for her.
When can a wife be ignored in Islam?
If the wife is disobedient to the husband and the husband ignores her to discipline her, then it is halal. For this reason, Islam has ordered to ignore the wife sometimes.
Hazrat Ibn Umar – Radiyallahu Anhu – narrates Rasulullah – may God bless him and grant him peace – said, ‘Know that each of you is a responsible person and each one will be asked about his subordinates. A man is responsible for his family (wife-children). He will be asked about them.’ (Muslim)
Therefore, the husband must fulfil his duties to be freed from the accountability of Allah and the fire of Hell. A husband cannot ignore his wife.
However, if the wife is involved in any crime, she should immediately try to return her to the right path according to the instructions of the Qur’an. The responsibilities and directions of the husband, as described in the Quran, are as follows.
Types of Ignoring Wife in Islam
If a husband ignores his wife in Islam, It’s halal in four ways, but it should be remembered that waiting for the wife to correct him. He discussed four types.
Give good advice
No husband should immediately get excited about his wife’s disobedience. Instead, it has been instructed to restrain oneself and try to convince the wife through sweet words of love or to give advice.
If, for some reason, the wife is under the wrong impression, try to remove it as much as possible. The husband restrains himself and looks at his wife’s wrongdoings with forgiveness. To condone their wrongdoing and try hard to make married life last as long as possible through Maya-Mammat.
Leave the bed
Suppose the wife indulges in disobedience despite good advice. But can you ignore him? Nabe separated the bed from him. Most wives cannot accept the fact that the husband separates his bed.
It causes significant distress and self-esteem to women. As the second step of Qur’anul Kareem, the husband’s responsibility is to leave his wife’s bed to express his anger and affection towards his wife. Refrain from spending the night together—separation of wife’s sleeping place.
To beat gently
If the wife is disobedient despite her husband’s warnings and disregards him, the Qur’anic direction to the husband to correct her is to beat her gently. Allah Ta’ala says – ‘Admonish those among the wives whose disobedience you fear. Then abandon their bed. Then beat them a little.’
Follow the alternative path.
In the first three systems, if the wife does not follow the right path, the guidance of the Qur’an is said to pursue an alternative route. And that is arbitration by both parties.
Allah says:
“If they fear a divorce, one from the husband’s family and one from the wife’s family shall appoint an arbitrator.” If they both want to settle, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.’ (Surah Nisa: Verse 35)
Why would the husband ignore the wife?
The husband will ignore the wife temporarily to correct her because Allah has given the husband authority and superiority over his wife.
Again, Allah Ta’ala has given men the responsibility of guiding their wives and children on the right path, turning them away from wrongdoing and keeping them free from the fire of Hell.
Men or husbands should endeavour patiently to bring their wives back to the right path because of this duty, according to the guidance of the Qur’an. It is a responsibility and commitment given by Allah Ta’ala.
What happens if you do not ignore the disobedient wife?
A man cannot allow his wife to indulge in wrongdoing, misdeeds and wickedness because the husband has to face accountability for the wife’s sin.
Therefore, it is not permissible for the husband to remain silent or ignore his wife. Because Allah Ta’ala has made the husband the authority and responsibility over the wife (Surah Nisa: 34) and commanded-
O believers! Try to save yourselves and your wives and families from the Hellfire.’ (Surah Tahrim: Verse 6)
It would be better if you describe disobedience clearly and not leave it for people to define disobedience. Some men take advantage of only this part and love to punish them to ‘discipline’ their wives without realizing that they are abusing them. They think they are allowed to ignore wives even if she didn’t cook well, clean the house on time because she was busy with children or maybe she works as well.
Be fair in your description. I wanted to get some guidance and advice from your article and feeling sad and humiliated all over again because apparently you agree that husband is allowed to ignore his wife even id she’s nothing but loyal to him