Husband and wife not sleeping together in Islam. There could be many reasons for this. The husband’s workplace is too far away to sleep together for a long time.
They can’t sleep together because someone’s husband is in exile. Again, someone’s husband may be missing for a long time. She is gone. No news of him is going to be known. So they can’t sleep together.
Again, it may be that the husband and wife are not sleeping together for some reason. In some cases, they may have been sleeping separately for a long time without conflict.
Whatever the reason why husband and wife do not sleep together, that is what we are discussing in detail in today’s discussion.
Husband and wife not sleeping together in Islam
The question that comes to mind is if the husband and wife are separated for a long time, will their marital relationship be okay or not? Many say their marriage will end in divorce. Is that correct?
If the husband and wife do not sleep together for a long time or do not see and talk, divorce will not occur because the specific way to divorce is to divorce the husband.
Islam does not support the statement that ‘if the husband and wife do not sleep together at a certain time, the divorce will automatically occur.
Divorce requires a divorce by the husband or divorce by the wife.
There is no provision in Islam for automatic divorce even though they don’t sleep together for four months, four years, or more.
We learned that divorce does not happen because the husband and wife sleep apart for a long time. So the husband and wife do not sleep together for a long time. They can sleep together if they want to.
In this way, after a husband has been missing for a long time, if he returns to his wife, they will be able to start a family as before. They do not need to be formally reunited.
Shaykh bin Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
‘A woman will be considered divorced only if her husband voluntarily divorces her in good health and there is no reason for the divorce to be prohibited.
For example, at the time of divorce, the husband’s brain is fully active. Not to be mad or drunk etc. To keep the wife pure from menstruation during a divorce. At that time, he did not have sexual intercourse with his wife.
Husband and wife sleep separately in Islam.
We have discussed above if the husband and wife are fully satisfied with each other, but due to some disability, they cannot sleep together.
But it would be a sin for anyone not to sleep together because of her husband’s displeasure with her. If the husband is dissatisfied with his wife, the angels curse her.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
If a wife hurts her husband in the world, the hurray prescribed for that husband of Jannat will say: O woman, do not hurt your husband; may Allah destroy you.
Your husband is only a guest for a few days; soon, your husband will leave you and come to us.
(Tirmizi – 1164)
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
The woman who dies in such a state that her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise. (Tirmidhi-1161)
The Qur’an-Sunnah instructs a husband and wife to have a romantic and loving relationship and to lead an enjoyable married life.
Allah has made it necessary for husband and wife to live a beautiful and good family life. Whoever disrupts this good relationship will have to face severe trials.
Therefore, if there is a quarrel between husband and wife for any reason, it is better to settle it immediately if this creates distance between them.
Even if the husband and wife do not sleep together, for this reason, Allah will be displeased with them, and they will be deprived of a successful married life.