How long husband and wife can live separately in Islam? The answer to this question is significant for married people.
Especially for those who are separated from their wives year after year due to jobs or other reasons, it is essential to know the answer because many people may be unknowingly involved in mistakes.
In the article, we are discussing how long a husband and wife can live separately in Islam. Necessary references will be attached to the discussion, and I hope it will benefit everyone.
How long husband and wife can live separately in Islam?
Islam encourages husband and wife to stay together at all times. The husband is supposed to be away from his wife for special needs such as going to jihad, going abroad for livelihood, etc.
But it has to be for four months or less. But after four months, even if only for a short time, he has to return to his wife.
Because a woman can usually stay away from her husband for four months, this time can be patient. But then his patience ran out.
Zayd bin Almas – may Allah have mercy on him – said,
One night, Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) entered the settlement in the guise of a guard to search the people. As he passed by a house, he heard a woman reciting a poem inside the house.
The poem that the woman was reciting means –
The night is long, and one side of it is black. But I haven’t had my love for a long time, and I’m not having fun with him. By God! Without fear of one God, the four sides of this bed would tremble.
After dawn, Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) ordered to call the woman who was reciting the night poem.
Husband and wife live separately, and they have a story.
When the female caliph appeared, Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) asked her, “Did you recite such a poem last night?” The woman replied, yes.
Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Why did you do that? The woman replied, “My husband has been on the field of jihad for a long time.”
But I wanted to be with you. I have done this without him. Hadrat’ Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) heard this and immediately sent instructions to the woman’s husband. I told him to come back.
Then he went to his daughter Hazrat Hafsa (may Allah be pleased with her) and asked her – O my daughter, how long can women be patient with their husbands?
I would not have asked you such a question if you did not want to protect the people’s interests. Hafsa – Radiyallahu Anha – said the girls may have been patient with their husbands for up to four months.
From then on, Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) would bring back the Mujahideen forces for four consecutive months and send new ones. ‘[Musannafe Abdur Razzaq, Hadith: 12594]
On this basis, the ulama ‘have said that staying away from one’s wife for more than four months does not support the Shari’ah. However, if someone is out longer than necessary, his wife must obtain permission.
The husband can stay away for more than four months if the wife gives permission and makes a firm promise that she will be able to control herself (sexual desire) at this time and if she agrees to it.
On the other hand, if the husband is in danger of getting involved in any sin due to being away from his wife, he cannot stay away from his wife for less than four months.
If the husband and wife are separated for a long time, will the automatic divorce fall?
If the husband and wife are separated for a long time, will their marital relationship be okay?
Divorce will not happen automatically due to the long separation of husband and wife.
Because if the husband and wife are separated for a long time or do not meet, there is no reason for divorce. Divorce is the name of a verbal or written action.
Since separation does not happen due to breaking for a long time, it is not difficult for the husband to return to his wife after the break for a long time.
Shaykh bin Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said this:
‘A woman will be considered divorced only if her husband voluntarily divorces her in a healthy mind, and there is no reason for the divorce to be prohibited.
However, if the husband goes missing, then he is not likely to return. If a long time has elapsed in this way, the judge will be able to bring the verdict of separation.
Different schools of thought have differing views on the exact number of days that a husband can be absent and the wife can apply for divorce.
Again, according to many, if the husband is missing for a long time. If it is not found in any way, it will be an automatic divorce.
What is the provision of separation for a long time to punish the wife?
If the wife does something wrong, the husband can be separated to punish her. In this regard, Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Qur’an,
Translation: And admonish the wives of whom you fear disobedience, and leave them alone in bed.
Narrated Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him): The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) left his wives for a month.
Thus, according to other hadiths, it is permissible to punish the wife by leaving her company. But that can’t be too long.
It is important to remember that there are instructions and instructions in the Qur’an and Sunnah about living a beautiful and good married life.
Allah Ta’ala has made it necessary for husband and wife to treat each other fairly. The one who will create unrest in the world will have to face a severe trial.
The guidance of Islam has come up in the Qur’an-Sunnah on how husband and wife can live a beautiful and good life.
Allah Ta’ala says, ‘Live well with women. But if you dislike them, then perhaps you dislike something in which Allah has bestowed much good. ‘(Surat an-Nisa ‘: 19)
In the hadith, the beloved Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) declared: ‘You will treat your wives well because women were created from the bones of your left rib.
And the ribs are the most curved. If you try to straighten it, it will break. And if you leave it that way, it will always be crooked. So keep dealing with them nicely. ‘(Bukhari)
Loss of husband and wife live separately for a long time
If the husband and wife are separated for a long time, there can be various kinds of failure. I am discussing below some of the special losses.
- The caress and love between husband and wife will decrease.
- Can ruin the husband and wife’s character.
- There is a possibility of being involved in adultery.
- The husband and wife will be unrest in the world.
- There will be adverse effects on children.
- The wife will have difficulty getting stuffed.
- Then there will be attraction toward women or after men.
- Will violate the provisions of Allah Ta’ala.
- Will face punishment in the hereafter.
All in all, husband and wife will be together. Husband and wife will satisfy each other’s sexual needs, which is Islam’s command.
But if you have to stay apart for some reason, it must be less than four months. If there is more time than this, both of them may have difficulties and difficulties.