Pure night light. Jonaki’s sweet tone. The fragrance of boiling flowers of Hemanta. You smile harmoniously. You hold the hand of your best friend. Then the question arises:::: Is it Haram to be friends with the opposite gender?
Because the friend you are walking hand in hand with may be of the opposite sex or imagining a person as a friend of the opposite gender.
So the question immediately came to your subconscious mind how is friendship with him valued from an Islamic point of view? Islam does not call it halal or Haram.
This article has a realistic and informative answer to your desired question. Hope you read the article and get an idea of who is halal and Haram to accept as friends in your life.
Is it Haram to be friends with the opposite gender?
Yes, It’s Haram to be friends with the opposite gender. Islamic scholars have all agreed on this. It is a sin that opens the door to many other sins. Due to this, Islam has forbidden this kind of friendship to expiate all sins.
Because there can never be Friendship between boys and girls, it is only indulgence, lust, and the devil’s tricks. Whenever a relationship develops between them, it will inevitably lead them to Zina.
Boys and girls are like magnets, and they attract each other. When there is Friendship between them,
It is not Friendship, but it becomes the basis of various sins. That is why Islam forbids friendship of the opposite gender.
Evidence that friendship with the opposite gender is Haram
In several verses of the Quran and hadiths, It’s Haram to be friends with the opposite gender. From this, we present some evidence below.
Allah Almighty says in the Holy Quran –
“O Prophet, tell the believers to lower their gaze and guard their private parts. Tell the believing women to keep their eyes restrained and humble and to protect their sexual organs. – Surah An-Nur. (Verses 30-31)
In the hadith, Rasulullah – may Allah bless him and grant him peace – said,
One who shows and sees the secret organs is cursed. The first and initial cause of lust is gazing and seeing, and the final result is adultery. (Tabarani)
Hazrat Abdullah Ibn Masud (RA) narrated: Gaze is Satan’s poison. (The Magnificent Quran in Tafseer.)
Harmful Effects of being friends with the opposite gender
Relationships that start as Friendship often turn into adultery. First, Friendship, then talking on the phone, then going to campus, a restaurant, or a park to sit side by side or walk holding hands and talk.
Then there may be various conditions. In short, every action in a boy-girl friendship relationship is adultery, according to Hadith Sharif.
There is a hadith in this regard – Abu Huraira – Radiyallahu Anhu – narrated that the Prophet – may God bless him and grant him peace – said: The Zina of the eyes is – seeing; The tongue being the Jina – speech, the heart desires and excites, and the genitals either implement it or not.”
In Sahih Muslim, there is also – a “Zina of two eyes is seeing, Zina of two ears is hearing, Zina of the tongue is speaking, Zina of hands is holding, Zina of feet is walking, heart desires; the genitalia either implements it or it doesn’t.
” Ibn Battal (RA) said: “Sight and speech have been called Zina because they are the true inducers of Zina. That is why the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Sex either fulfils it or it does not.” (Fathul Bari)
Who is it permissible to be friends with?
Since friendship is a good thing, be friends with good people. There are clear instructions in the Quran and Hadith Sharif regarding choosing friends.
Allah says in the Holy Qur’an – “Believing people will never make friends of disbelievers instead of believers.” If any of you does that, he will have no relationship with Allah.” (Surah Al-Imran: 28)
This verse means that we will accept as friends a person who is faithful, pious, truthful, virtuous, accustomed to doing good, and upright.
Since we cannot live without friends, we must be cautious in accepting friends.
Regarding this, the Holy Prophet – may Allah bless him and grant him peace – said, “The religion of his friend influences man. So let each one of you consider whom he takes as a friend. [Tirmidhi]
This hadith means that one should be careful in choosing friends. No bad people can be friends. Being friends can lead to liver destruction.
For example: In the current era, samples can be given as drug addicts, characterless, thieves, robbers, rapists, etc. However, it is not blameworthy to establish a relationship with someone to bring them to the path of religion.
How to make friends in a halal way?
The only way to befriend someone of the opposite gender is to marry them. If you like a girl, then the guardian of thHaramrl should propose marriage to you and marry her.
Then develop a warm friendship with him. This friend will be pure and full of love. There will be nothing to lose, nothing to worry about and nothing to grieve.
Only both of you will benefit greatly, and there will be no ill effects on society. You will also find it an enjoyable affair from a religious point of view.
Summary of the answer
The answer to the question “Is it haram to be friends with the opposite gender?” is yes, it is haram, according to Islamic scholars.
The friendship between boys and girls is seen as a form of indulgence, lust, and the devil’s tricks that can lead to Zina (adultery).
Several verses and hadiths from the Quran support this, including Surah An-Nur, which instructs believers to lower their gaze and guard their private parts.
Hadiths warn against the harmful effects of opposite-gender friendship, as relationships can start as a friendship and quickly become adultery.
It is recommended that people befriend those who are faithful, pious, truthful, virtuous, accustomed to doing good, and upright.
One should be careful in choosing friends as one’s friends can influence their religion.