Is it Haram to think sexually – the primitive game of human beings is sex. Different religions and doctrines have various customs and rules about it.
An evidence-based answer to whether sexual thinking is Haram or not is discussed in this post, along with several other related questions; we hope the answers to these questions will increase your knowledge.
Is it Haram to think sexually
No, it is not Haram to think sexually. Because no sin is written merely by having evil thoughts in the mind, Istighfar should be recited as soon as other such ideas come.
At the same time, the evil deed should be removed from the mind. Just thinking about Kufr does not become Kufr unless reflected in actions, words, and declarations.
Therefore, as soon as the sexual thought comes, I ask for forgiveness. And these evil thoughts should be removed from the mind. Is it possible to meet with a godly sunnah paband elder once a week or a month? Sometimes, you can protect yourself from these evil thoughts by telling him about your situation.
But on the contrary, some Islamic scholars say that sexual thoughts are forbidden. Because they identified it as an evil and sinful act. However, there are two opinions among Islamic scholars as to whether sexual thoughts are Haram or not. But the first vote is more vital than we can accept.
Evidence of Is It Not Haram to Think Sexually
Angels do not record any thought in the mind as sin. So, it is not Haram to think sexually. The following hadith proves this.
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ, فِيمَا يَرْوِي عَنْ رَبِّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ قَالَّ: قَالَ: «إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَت َبَ الحَسَنَاتِ وَالسَّيِّئَاتِ ثُمَّبَيَّنَ ذَلِكَ, فَمَنْ هَمَّ بِحَسَنَةٍ فَلَمْ يَعْمَلْهَا كَتَبَهَا اللَّهُ لَهُ عِنَدَهُ حَسَنَةً كَامِلَةً, فَإِن ْ هُوَ هَمَّ بِهَا فَعَمِلَهَا كَتَبَهَا اللَّهُ لَهُ عِنْدَهُ عَشْرَ حَسَنَاتٍ إِلَى سَبْعِ مِائَةِ ضِعْفٍ إِلَى أَضْعَافٍ كَثيرَةٍ, وَمَنْ هَمَّ بِسَيِّئةٍ فَلَمْ يَعْمَلْهَا كَتَبَهَا اللَّهُ لَهُ عِنْدَهُ حَسَنَةً كَامِلَةً, فَإِنْ هُوَ هَمَّ بِهَا فَعَمِلَهَا كَتَبَهَا اللَّهُ لَهُ سَيِّئَةً وَاحِدَةً
Narrated Abdullah Bin Abbas RA. He said the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to say that Allah, the Exalted, records the good and bad deeds.
Then he explains it so that Allah records a complete good deed for him if a person intends to do a good deed but cannot.
And if he completes the deed, he is recorded as increasing his good deeds by ten to seven hundred or more. And whoever intends to commit a sin but does not commit it, Allah bestows upon him a complete good deed. And if the act is performed, then a sin is recorded. [Bukhari, Hadith No-6491]
Prayer is also a way to eliminate thinking sexually
Although thinking sexually is not Haram, that’s not a good thing either. So it should be avoided. There are some ways and methods for that in Islam.
Abu Ahmad Shakal Ibn Humaid Radiyallahu Anhu narrates, I told Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam – Teach me a supplication. He said, you say-
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ سَمْعِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ بَصَرِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ لِسَانِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ قَلْبِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَنِيِّي
Pronunciation: ‘Allahumma inni aujubika min sharri samayi, wa min bachari wa min sharri lisani wa min sharri qalbi wa min sharri maniyi.’
Meaning: ‘O Allah, I seek refuge in You from hearing evil. I seek shelter from seeing something evil with my eyes. Seek refuge from speaking evil with the tongue. Seek refuge from evil thoughts in the heart. Seek refuge from the evil thoughts of bodily desires.’ (Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi, Nasa’i)
Besides, Nabiji Sallallahu Alaihi wa sallam has warned people against obscenity and promiscuity. Because of these things, unknown new diseases and virus attacks come down on people. In the hadith, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said:
‘When licentiousness and indecency spread among a nation, such and such new diseases will spread among them, which has never been seen before.’ (Ibn Majah)
Nabiji sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam asked to seek refuge in Allah for freedom from obscenity and promiscuity. A meaningful prayer has been mentioned in the hadith about this-
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ مُنْكَرَاتِ الأَخْلاَقِ وَالأَعْمَالِ وَالأَهْوَاءِ وَ الْاَدْوَاءِ
Pronunciation: ‘Allahumma inni aujubika min munkaratil akhlaqbi wal a’mali wal ahwayi, wal adwayi.’
Meaning: O Allah! Verily, I seek refuge with You from the evils of evil (nast-bade) character, wrongdoings and vices, and evil sicknesses and newly created diseases.’ (Tirmidhi)
FAQs
Is it forbidden to think sexually about your wife?
No, It’s not Haram to think sexually about one’s wife. Because having sex with one’s wife is halal, thinking about her cannot be haram.
If sexual thoughts about any other woman come into the mind, then it should be avoided. But have sex as much as possible and be satisfied with him.
Is it Haram to think about the image of another woman during intercourse with your wife?
Yes, It’s Haram to think sexually, imagining the image of another woman during intercourse with one’s wife. Similarly, imagining another man during intercourse with one’s husband is viewed as evil and reprehensible by every sane believer. And in the hadith,
What Muslims (with a conscience of faith) see with good eyes is good with Allah. And what Muslims see as evil is evil to Allah. (Musnad Ahmad 5/211)
In another hadith,
Jabir agreed. The Prophet ﷺ said, “Surely women come in the form of Satan and leave in the form of Satan.” If a woman likes one of you and becomes enamoured with him, let him go to his wife and have intercourse with her. Indeed, this meeting will eliminate the evil plans of the heart. (Muslim 3473).
From this hadith, it is also understood that it is not permissible to retain in the mind what is born in the heart after seeing a woman. Because in the hadith, Rasulullah ﷺ has taught the method to eliminate what is taken in the heart after seeing a woman. Imagining the image of another woman while having intercourse with one’s wife means creating an opportunity to do this forbidden act.
Scholars’ opinion
Ibn Abidin Shami. said
“I have not seen any of us (Hanafi Madhhab) objected to Masalati. (Hashiatu Ibn Abidin 6/372)
Ibnul Hajj Al Maliki. said
It is necessary to prevent oneself and others through words from this evil practice prevalent in society. And that is when a man, after seeing a woman, is attracted to him, he keeps the woman whom he has seen visible before his eyes while having intercourse with his wife. It is a form of adultery. (Al Madkhal 2/195)
Ibn Muflih al-Hambali. said
If one imagines the appearance of another woman during intercourse with his wife, he will be guilty of sin. (Al Adab 98)