Is dating haram in Islam?

Is dating Haram in Islam? One of my students wanted to know on the phone – is dating Haram in Islam? But I was surprised to hear his question because he was only 15.

I wondered why he was asking this question at such a young age. I asked him if it was related to you.

He said no, sir, this is what a friend wanted to know. He wants to have a relationship with a girl. So he wants to know if dating him will be halal.

I asked her again how old is the boy she wanted to date. He replied – My friend Basay will turn 16 next month.

This is a small picture of the decline of the Muslim social system. Where a sixteen-year-old teenager is seen dating. Still, the boy deserves to be thanked.

Because before doing so, he was very interested in whether it was halal or Haram in Islam.

But countless Muslim boys are involved in relationships and dating but never want to know that dating is forbidden in Islam.

What is dating in Islam?

In other words, what are the rules of dating in Islam? This is a question that many people want.

But first, we need to know what dating is. If we interpret the word literally, it can be said that – dating means – a specific date.

The word dating has an ordinary meaning in society – to set a date for meeting a lover. Then the two meet on that date.

Similarly, building a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship – spending time and romance is also called dating. These are forbidden and sinful.

But in the dating haram in Islam article, we discuss halal dating. Here we are highlighting the forms and rules of dating in Islam.

Is dating Haram in Islam?

Yes, Conventional dating is Haram in Islam. It is forbidden to have any relationship between every boy and girl legally bound before marriage.

Dating is meeting a boy and a girl on a specific date or time. To tell stories. Romance is meant to be.

It is through dating that the door to adultery is opened. After a relationship is formed between an unfamiliar boy and girl, they gradually become like husband and wife.

The husband and wife engage in all lawful actions between the husband and the wife. They have to do all these actions every day.

They do not think that their life is considered adultery in Islam. By Allah, dating is Haram in Islam. Anything that is going on in society in the name of dating is adultery or a great sin.

Boys and girls involved in haram dating and relationships in their youth will one day have to answer Allah for their actions.

Is dating Haram in the Holy Quran?

Yes, of course, dating is forbidden in the Holy Quran. In several verses, Allah Ta’ala has clarified the halal and haram aspects of the relationship between men and women.

As Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Quran,

“All good things are lawful for you today. The food of the People of the Book is legal for you. Your food is lawful for them.

A believing chaste woman (marriage) is valid for you. Your marriage with the virtuous women of the People of the Book is good.

When you seal them, not as a married woman, but as an open adulterer or as a concubine.

And whoever disbelieves with faith, his deeds will surely come to nought, and he shall be among the losers hereafter. (Surat al-Ma’ida: 5)

This verse discusses marriage as a legitimate way to establish a relationship between a man and a woman. Therefore, all kinds of relationships are forbidden except marriage.

Dating in Islam and the Quranic verbs

“When you ask (the wives of the Prophet) for something, ask them from behind the veil. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts” (Al-Ahzab 353).

The wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to visit the Companions for various needs and talked to them.

Allah Ta’ala imposed a rule on them by that verse. So that if they need to talk to the wives of the Prophet, they say from behind the curtain.

The purpose is to educate all Muslim men and to clarify the provisions of the relationship between men and women.

That means men can’t talk directly to women. They will speak from behind any wall or cloth etc.

But what is dating now? Hijab is a far cry from the fact that they engage in activities even the human conscience hates, such as romance, adultery, etc. So dating is forbidden in Islam.

Is dating Haram in Hadith?

Dating is Haram in Hadith as well as in Holy Quran. There are numerous hadiths about this. We are discussing a few.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mahram) woman, Satan is present as the third of them.” (Tirmidhi, 2165)

In another hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Every child of Adam has been given a share of Zina.

The Zina of the eyes is to look, the Zina of the mouth is to speak, the Zina of the ears is to hear, the Zina of the feet is to walk, and the Zina of the heart is to imagine. Then the genitals attest to it or deny it.

In other words, talking to or thinking about any girl legally bound by marriage is adultery.

And those who are dating are limited to just talking and meeting. Their deeds have reached the level of actual adultery. So dating is forbidden and sinful.

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How to do Halal dating?

The only way to date is to get married. If you are a girl, inform your parents that you are interested in knowing and marrying a certain Muslim boy.

Your parents will go home and tell the parent that their daughter is interested in getting to know the boy and getting married.

Then the boy can go to the girl’s house with the consent of his parents, and they can get to know each other according to the rules of Sharia.

Because it is legal to meet a girl for a specific date, such dating is halal.

From Gira Ibn Shuba – Radiyallahu Anhu – said,

‘After I proposed marriage to a woman, the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said to me,’ Have you seen her?’

I said – no, (I haven’t seen him). He said, “ook at him.”Because this meeting of yours will deepen the love relationship in married life. (Musnad Ahmad)

Narrated by Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) –

He said, “man came to the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, ” want to marry an Ansari woman.’

He said – (before marriage) look at him. Because Ansari women have some faults in their eyes. (Sahih Muslim)

However, there are some conditions for this. These conditions cannot be violated. Otherwise, dating will become Haram instead of halal. Below we discuss those conditions.

Conditions of dating in Islam

Although it is legal to meet and talk to the bride and groom for marriage, specific rules must be observed.

The first condition: is the consent of both the bride and groom. If a bride refuses to marry a boy, it is not lawful for the girl to be forced into dating by her guardian.

Second condition: Arrange family dating. Or the parents of the boy and girl to be aware of dating.

If their parents are unaware of dating, it is no longer a difference between love and dating.

Third condition: Dating should not be in a secluded place. Such as not meeting privately at a park, hotel, or resort. People have to meet in front of the eyes.

If dating is arranged at the girl’s house, the door and window of the room they will be sitting in should be kept open.

Fourth condition: can not see in the eyes of sexual arousal. There should be a risk-free environment for engaging in sex.

When dating Haram in Islam?

After seeing the girl, he will not be able to meet her till marriage. As we have discussed above, Islam has allowed the selection of a bride for marriage and dating her according to a specific rule.

After seeing a girl under the abovementioned rules, it is unnecessary to keep in touch with her for a long time to decide to marry her.

SShaykh’ thyme (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

The woman who proposed marriage is like any other woman. It is haraam to look at him, to talk to him, to meet him, everything.

She should do it if she wants to talk to or meet him. Then everything will be halal for him. But if they say we must marry each other except Akad, it is nothing but SSatan’sdeception.

However, it would not be haraam for them to discuss marriage before the wedding, especially in the field.

Shaykh bin Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

I don’t know if there is any problem if the proposed woman talks to the man proposing to her in the context of marriage.

But it has to be something where there is nothing wrong. And there will be nothing to help the forbidden.

Why date Haram in Islam?

Allah Almighty has also forbidden us to be close to jinn. Allah TTa’alasays, do not go to Jenna. Indeed it is an indecency and an evil way. (Surah Isra: 32)

However, the Merciful God has allowed us to express our love and fulfil our biological needs through legal marriage.

Therefore, a man must marry according to the rules of Allah without stepping into haram dating before marriage.

However, even if haram dating (forbidden love) is the cause of sin, it is not a sin like a shirk, kufr, or apostasy, because of which all his deeds will be wasted, or his deeds will not be accepted.

On the contrary, even in this condition, his prayers, fasting, alms-giving, supplication, recitation of the Qur’an and other good deeds will not be wasted.

On the contrary, if he performs these regularly with pure intention, then it is to be hoped that Allah the Almighty will accept it.

But it will be sinful because of the dating haram. In this case, the thing to do is to repent immediately and return to this path.

Allah instructed us to repent and repent from all kinds of wickedness and said: O you who believe! Repent to Allah and repent sincerely.

It may be that your Lord will forgive you your evil deeds and admit you to Gardens beneath which rivers flow. (Surat at-Tahrim: 6)

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