Marriage between cousins is a very normal thing. People like Queen Victoria, Charles Darwin, Albert Einstein married their cousins.
Cousin marriages are common among about one billion people worldwide. About one out of every three marriages takes place between close relatives.
At present, in the Middle East, Iran, and South Asia, marital relations between Kazinden are increasing. Cousin marriages are more common in rural areas than in urban areas.
Usually, cousins have more opportunities to meet, socialize and talk. As a result, there is more love between them.
That is why cousins are more inclined towards each other in choosing their life partners. Uncles, cousins , or cousins always get married.
But the question remains, is it halal to marry a cousin? can I marry my cousin in Islam? I am discussing this answer in today’s blog.
Can I marry my cousin in Islam?
Islam does not put cousins on the list of mahram or forbidden women. That is, cousins are not mahrams to each other. They are not mahrams.
And it is lawful to marry a girl who will be a mahram. Therefore, marriage between cousins, aunts, uncles, cousins is completely legal. You can marry a cousin.
Cousin marriage has two levels. The first level or first-degree relative means – your cousins, uncles, aunts, cousins are married to each other.
And the second level or second-degree relative means – marriage between the children of father or mother’s cousins, uncles, aunts, or cousins.
These two types of cousin marriages are legal in Islam. But many people point out the difficulties in cousin marriage for the sake of science. The following words are especially significant.
- Abortion or stillbirth.
- The birth of a child with a physical defect is 5 times more than normal.
- Abnormal death of a child at the age of the first year.
- Sudden infant mortality due to unknown reasons.
- Not growing the child properly.
- Hearing and sight and intellectual disabilities.
- Possibility of epilepsy.
- Various unknown diseases.
- Various blood diseases.
But as Muslims, we must believe that all diseases and their cures are under the power of Allah.
Since that great God has legalized cousin marriage, its provision cannot be questioned. Due to the possibility of all these diseases, cousin marriage will not be forbidden.
Moreover, the objections raised against cousin marriage for the sake of science are not unanimous. Many disagree.
Children who do not have a cousin relationship with their parents are not the only ones who are not affected by these diseases.
Cousin married in Quran
This verse of the Holy Qur’an clearly states that marital relations between men and women are not valid.
حرمت عليكم أمهاتكم وبناتكم وأخواتكم وعماتكم وخالاتكم وبنات الأخ وبنات الأخت وأمهاتكم اللاتي أرضعنكم وأخواتكم من الرضاعة وأمهات نسائكم وربائبكم اللاتي في حجوركم من نسائكم اللاتي دخلتم بهن فإن لم تكونوا دخلتم بهن فلا جناح عليكم وحلائل أبنائكم الذين من أصلابكم وأن تجمعوا بين الأختين إلا ما قد سلف إن اللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورًا رَحِيمًا (23)
Translation: It is forbidden for you – your mother, daughter, sister, aunt, uncle, brother’s daughter, sister’s daughter, step-mother, step-sister, mother-in-law, and daughter-in-law of your ex-husband and those who are in your custody.
But if you do not have sexual intercourse with them, then there is no sin on you and it is forbidden for you to marry the wife of your illegitimate son and two sisters together. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful. (Surat an-Nisa ‘: 23)
The list of women who are not allowed to marry is given in these two verses.
It is not compatible with human nature to marry such women. Marriage is not valid in all three cases.
First: Women with blood relations. For example, it is haraam to marry a mother, sister, daughter, aunt, niece, and nephew.
Second: It is haram in the marital formula, for example, the wife’s mother, sister, and daughter born in the womb of the wife’s previous husband.
Thirdly: Haram due to milk relationship. For example, it is haraam to marry a mother and a sister.
There are no cousins among those with whom marriage has been declared forbidden in the above verse. So cousin marriage is legal in Islam.
Can I marry my cousin in hadith?
In pre-Islamic times, a foster son was considered his son. The adopted son was considered to be the real son in all cases.
Foster sons shared property like real children, and the same was true of the relationship of adopted children with women who were forbidden to marry based on lineage and blood relations.
Just as it is haraam to marry the wife of an illegitimate son after the divorce has taken place, so it is haraam to marry the divorced wife of a foster son.
This is why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) married Zaynab bint Jahash.
The hypocrites get the great instrument of opposition.
They keep preaching that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was so greedy that he even married his daughter-in-law.
Because Zaynab bint Jahash – Radiyallahu Anha – was the cousin of Rasulullah – Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
So he first married Zaynab to his foster son Zayd ibn Haritha (may Allah be pleased with him).
But Zainab’s family was not going well with Zaid. So there is a separation between them. If Rasulullah wants to marry her after the divorce, the hypocrites start criticizing her.
Then Allah Ta’ala revealed this verse,
‘Muhammad is not the father of any of you; Rather, he is the Messenger of God and the Last Prophet. GOD is fully aware of all things. ‘(Surat al-Ahzab: 40)
In another verse he said,
‘You call them their patriarchs. That is right with God.
If you do not know their ancestry, they will be considered your religious brothers and friends. ‘
The verses of the Holy Quran and the marriage of his cousin by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) prove that cousin marriage is valid in Islam.